This has been on my mind for a while!

I am a message board kind of girl! I love to read about people’s travels, life journeys, thoughts etc.  I think I like to do it because....I love meeting new people and on a "low to no budget" I don't have to spend money to meet people. lol

I log into different forums and message boards, weight watchers, dotties weight loss zone, curves, and sometimes yahoo groups... most of what i am reading is about weight loss because lord knows I need all the help and encouragement I can get!  I love being encouraging to someone if I can as well. 

What has been bothering me the most is how narrow minded some people can be....I think a lot of people when they post stuff on these boards...they don’t' think before it’s out there.  Losing weight, coming to grips with why you are in that position in the first place, keeping the weight off, staying healthy are all things that are, for some people it’s really hard...and can be depressing. 

On my mind lately is this made up argument about weight loss surgery vs. eating better and working out?  I have heard so many crazy things that it unnerves me!  I too have thought about weight loss surgery...As a matter of fact I have been "thinking" about it for the past 3 years.  In that 3 years time I have learned so mushy about the surgery options that I feel comfortable enough to go through with it.  YES I SAID IT OUT LOUD!!! I AM GOING THROUGH WITH IT!!

I hate that people make it seem like “weight loss surgery” is a dirty word.  People, who like me, that have been over weight all their lives don't need others trying to make them feel bad about the choices they make!  I hate when people say "Oh, you decided to take the easy route out" What an idiot! Anyone who has done any research about the surgery options knows that it is definitely not and easy way out!  After I looked at all that was out there to help me lose and maintain my ultimate goal, I felt like this was a great option for me.  Those same people who say that are the same people who have tried slim fast, jenny craig, weight watchers, and other tools that are out there to help with weight loss.  What makes their selection of the type of tool they use is any better than mine!?!?!  Just like with the other non surgical tools they don't always work all by themselves.  I believe it takes a combination of tools that if you have struggled with weight loss for a while to make it all work.

Using a combination of tools is why before surgery, I am working on learning more about how and why I make the choices I do about food...I think If I get a good handle on it then increasing my activities will help with maintaining the weight loss that the surgery will help me lose. 
So next time you see some one that you know has either, lost a lot of weight, is trying to lose a lot of weight or has had surgery or thinking about surgery....don't say crap like "That surgery is the easy way, or they are not safe, or don't do that" instead...be supportive.....say" I love you, and I know you will make the decision that is right for you.  I will keep you in my prayers so that GOD will keep watch over you and to help make whichever choice you make, work for you.!"  or say "That's cool, How can I help!"  I guarantee you, if you said that to me....I'd love that!!! 

Life is hard enough without the extra of having to always defend your choices about your weight loss journey to everyone.  That is why people who have the surgery stay so tight lipped about it and don’t sometimes get all the support they could use from the people they love the most...I have a friend who had the surgery over a year ago...I didn't find out that she was even thinking about it until it was done...I asked her why she didn't tell me.. She said “because the first few people I told were so negative, I couldn’t handle it."  She said “I and was scared too.” I hate that because I would have been there for her...but she just assumed that everyone was going to be negative! 

Like my Grandma Bud use to say " IF YOU AINT GOT NOTHING GOOD TO SAY HUSH YA MOUTH!!!"

-Be prayerful, supportive and loving to those you meet...you never know what it may mean to them!

-nuff said!